Like the rest of the world, I saw Deadpool & Wolverine last weekend and absolutely loved it! I’ve been a fan of Wolverine since the first X-Men movie, and I immediately identified with the character. The loner who requires a community but thinks he doesn’t—that’s me to a T.

As an only child and an Aquarius, I deeply resonate with the desire to have a community of people who truly know and see me for who I am. But, like Wolverine, my past wounds can make it hard to chip away at my metal alloy, aka ‘Adamantium’.

Just like the variants of Wolverine in the movie, I’m now older and haven’t lived up to some of the goals set by my other variants in the past. One of my variants wanted to be a punk rocker in a band like Blink-182, another wanted to be an environmental lawyer, and yet another aspired to be a super-wealthy Stepford wife. Now, at 41 and working in digital marketing, I’m finding my way through this path of life and career.

I realize that this version of me is a great mom, friend, girlfriend, and hopeful human who believes the universe never steers me wrong. As much as I might want to grumble and retreat into loner mode, I know deep down that I’ve turned out to be the right guy (girl in this case). There have been plenty of times when I wanted to shout to the universe, “Whoever you think I am, you got the wrong guy.” But in truth, embracing who I am now, with all my quirks and imperfections, has made me stronger and more resilient.

So here I am, the Wolverine you’re left with—still evolving, still growing, and still finding my place in this world. And you know what? I think you’ll love this version of me just as much as I do.